Before getting serious and taking the leap into a real commitment, let’s have a chat about some important stuff. It can feel scary and super vulnerable initiating these conversations, but not as scary as having to end a relationship months or years down the track because you have realised you are on completely different pages about your future. Here are a few questions to mull over together:
- What Makes Us Tick?: Are we on the same wavelength when it comes to our values and dreams? Do we see eye-to-eye on where we’re headed in life?
- Wedding Bells and Baby Talk: Do we both see marriage and possibly starting a family in our future or not? And if so, when do we picture that happening?
- Dollar Bills: How do we handle money matters? Are we cool talking about budgets, bills, and joint savings goals?
- Home Sweet Home: Where do we see ourselves living down the track? And who’s taking out the trash? (Seriously, who?)
- Talking it Out: When the going gets tough, can we have the hard convos without the drama? And are we okay with seeking help if we hit a rough patch?
- Work and Play: Are our career paths and hobbies in sync? Are we ready to cheer each other on and compromise when needed?
- Getting Cozy: How’s the cuddle factor? Are we keeping the love alive and making time for each other?
- Feeling Good: How do we support each other’s health and happiness? Are we down for some joint yoga sessions or hikes in the hills?
- Dynamic Duo: What makes us an awesome team? And what do we need to work on to keep our groove going?
- Getting Legal: Have we thought about the nitty-gritty legal stuff, like wills and who gets what if the worst happens?
- Cheers to Friends and Fam: How do we handle our peeps? Are we cool with each other’s squad and family time?
- Baggage Claim: Any skeletons in our closets we need to unpack? Let’s chat about past stuff that might affect us and how we can support each other.
Diving right into these topics helps you both know where you stand. It’s all about being real and building a solid foundation for our future together!
So, make the time, open up the dialogue, and really get to know each other. If you need some help, check out our page on relationship counseling.